One of the most helpful things in NVC is the focus on the needs beneath the strategies, feelings and thoughts we experience. Needs are actionable in a way that feelings and thoughts are not.  Strategies consciously based on needs are far more effective, efficient and satisfying than scattershot strategies we employ because we feel pressure […]

From Robert Gonzales’s “Beauty of the Needs” work and LIFE programs, I have learned that there are two ways to meet a need. One way is to make a request of another person. For example, “I’m thirsty, would you hand me a glass of water?” or “Would you be willing to tell me how you […]